What Can I Do To Get My Ex Boyfriend Back?

My younger sister, 'Meg,' recently broke up with her boyfriend of over 4 years and was devestated!! She really wanted to get him back, but everything she was doing would just push him away further. Meg was acting overly anxious trying to get her Ex Boyfriend back and it was causing him to pull further away from her.

She was constantly calling and emailing him and never giving him time to breathe. She would even try and make him feel guilty!

Meg finally asked for my advice and this is what I told her:


I told her to take a completely fresh and different approach. Begin by breaking contact off for a while, doing your own thing. I suggested she almost 'ignore' him if it was at all possible. I told her that during this time where there is no communication between you and your ex boyfriend, you can focus on ways that you can improve your own personal life, rather than focusing on your relationship issues. I told her it was going to be a challenging time, and it was going to require her to be very disciplined to prevent her from returning to her old ways (nagging, calling, emailing, etc).

Meg followed my advice and during this time, her ex experienced a shift in how he felt about her, since she was no longer pursuing him. She became mysterious to him in some ways, because he was not sure what she was doing or feeling. This is actually something that can worked in her favor. Now her ex was in a position to miss her and remember all the good times they had together. If Meg was constantly 'nagging' him with emails and phone calls, he would have had a constant reminder of why he broke up with her.

This is the advice I gave Meg and I hope you may be able to use it to get your ex boyfriend/girlfriend back.

You must remember that the key to this strategy and repairing a break up is to work with human nature rather than attempting to work against it. If you are wondering " What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back", now you should have a fairly basic understanding on how common mistakes can be avoided. Once you implement this basic strategy you can restore a balance and allow your ex to remember why he loved you in the first place.

Meg kept herself grounded and avoided smothering/nagging him. She made herself appear mysterious and almost disappeared from his life for a short time. This helped him remember what was so great about their relationship.

So if you play hard to get (don't over do it) and let him make the first move, and you will come out on top. And then you will stop asking "What can I do to get my ex boyfriend back"